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Q: What is your name and age?
A: My name is Alisha Gee, and I am twenty-six years old.
Q. What brings you here today?
A: I am here to share a bit about my childhood and how it framed who I am and what I do.
Q. What exactly do you do for a career?
A: I am an abuse coach.
Q. When did you discover your desire to pursue this passion?
A: I started a year ago in 2019. From there, I went all in!
Q. Describe your upbringing; expound on how your upbringing impacted who you are and what you are doing now.
A: My dad was a missionary doctor, which allowed us to live all over the U.S. and other countries such as Germany and China. Shortly after my family and I moved back to the U.S. when I was ten years old, I noticed that a family member began to treat me differently. It wasn’t until I turned eleven that the treatment drastically changed. Between the ages of eleven and thirteen, a family member consistently molested me. Innocent games soon turned into inappropriate touching. I was told, “It’s normal,” “everyone does this,” and “no one will believe you if you tell.” Because I was so young, it took a long time to realize what was happening to me. These were some of the most developmental years of my life, and I led to believe that this wrong action was the right action. Yet, deep down inside of me, I knew it was wrong because it felt wrong. The fact that I was s*xually abused finally came out when my parents went through my emails without my knowledge. There was an email from my abuser containing explicit content. He had sent it to me during his time away from the family. My parents then confronted him. The pressure of being caught must have been too much because he admitted to everything. At this time, I wasn’t close to my mom, so when she approached me about the situation, it didn’t go well. I had never heard about s*xual abuse, let alone s*xual abuse at a family member’s hands. I was thirteen. I could barely get anything out, but when I did, my mother looked me in the eyes and said, “Alisha, it takes two.” I was devastated. I didn’t understand the situation, and after my mother’s remark, I wouldn’t have a clear understanding for almost sixteen years.
Q. Can you describe the process of the pursuit of said passion?
A: In my early twenties, I began working at a home that aided women; girls exposed to s*x trafficking. During that time, my boyfriend (now fiance) was aware of my undealt abuse. One day he looked at me and said, “I know you love these girls, but you never showed up for yourself.” His statement impacted me. I couldn’t show up for others on a level that mattered until I showed up for myself– so I sought help. When I felt that I had finally given myself the time and attention required to heal, I began to speak openly about the hardships I faced in my youth. A year ago, I told my story on a public platform. The responses I received from others was overwhelming. So many women had been through similar circumstances. It was then that I knew I was to stand up for and behind them. I was to equip them to heal and extend their healing so that unreached women could be reached and set free from their abuser and the chains that follow. I couldn’t and can’t reach every abused woman alone. This type of hurt is so deep and the healing more profound. It is meant to be a movement, a wildfire. To accomplish this reach, I created the Rise Up Framework– Release, Reclaim, and Rise. The framework consists of a six month one on one coaching program (R3), group coaching (Rise Up Academy), and a five-week online healing course (Abused is Not My Name).
Q. Can you tell us about the challenges you faced while building your vision?
A: The emotional insecurities that follow s*xual abuse are a different monster from most. I constantly had to battle back my limiting beliefs and self-doubt. I also faced a backlash from outside sources that validated the damaging insecurities I was already dealing with. Many people didn’t understand my vision. They made remarks such as: “Why are you still talking about your abuse?” “You’re just looking for attention.” or “Your story isn’t unique; you aren’t equipped to be a coach.”
Q. Can you tell us more about your work?
A: The Rise Up Frame Work– Release, Reclaim, and Rise. I created the framework to aide women worldwide release their past so they can live the life they’ve always dreamed of. I also speak on podcasts, at in-person events, and even news channels. Whatever it takes to reach the unreached.
Q. What is your most tremendous success thus far?
A: My most tremendous success lies in knowing that women are being heard and being healed –Because in doing so, we prevent such tragedies from happening to others. Awareness is everything.
Q. What would you consider to be the most rewarding part of your job right now?
A: Seeing women finally find freedom after abuse and realize that it doesn’t define them and know they can have an abundant, happy, successful life despite the abuse.
Q. Do you believe anyone is capable of accomplishing the same things that you have completed?
A: Yes! Healing and freedom are for everyone!
Q. What advice would you give to a visionary such as yourself?
A: You can do hard things. Keep going regardless of the backlash you may face from yourself and others. Permit yourself and allow yourself to do what you know you are capable of doing because I promise you there are ten people right in front of you dying for you to show up and support them through their painful life experiences.
Q. Where do you see yourself and your projects in the next five years?
A: I will continue to speak all around the world. My goal is to speak in every state in the US and go on a world tour. I want to keep spreading the message and tools about how to find healing and freedom after abuse. I will have a few books out as well. My fiance and I will also raise children with an appropriate awareness of the predators in this world. They will be a generation equipped to live fully.
Q. Is there anything else you want your audience to know about yourself or your business?
A: I just want them to know that life is not to be experienced alone; this includes the hardships. Join a community of people with similar hardships and are taking action to heal and be free. If you haven’t found a community yet, please don’t hesitate to join mine. (Facebook, Instagram)